It’s amusing how society still views money through a gendered lens. This isn’t just a blog; it’s a truth bomb.
Let’s Talk About It
It’s actually funny; funny in a slightly twisted way that how people still criticize each other based on gender when it comes to finances. I mean, really? We’re in 2025 and we’re still stuck in the loop of “men earn, women spend,” or “females only talk about independence when they start earning.” That mindset? It’s sick. And here’s why I feel the need to speak about it.
This blog isn’t about throwing shade at any gender. It’s about sharing a simple fact that one I’ve experienced and observed i.e. women have always worked. They’ve just not been paid for it. They’ve raised the kids, kept the home together, cared for the elders, managed the chaos and done all of it without a paycheck. Not because they’re weak or dependent, but because society normalized their unpaid labor.
And what’s wild? That same woman raised the man of the house. You know, the one who then grows up thinking he owns the title and can do whatever he wants because he earns. The irony.
Financial Freedom Is Human, Not Gendered
Earlier, when men were mostly the ones earning, money was just for bread and butter, right? That’s the narrative. But these ideas have mutated as today, when a woman earns, suddenly her money is seen as a badge of rebellion or superiority?
Now, when a woman earns, it’s often automatically linked with “empowerment” as if financial independence is a revolutionary act for her but an entitlement for him.
Why?
Why is the female’s financial freedom seen as a threat instead of a strength?
But here’s the real deal: financial independence isn’t gendered.
It’s a need. It’s a right. It’s a means to dignity, not a power play.
So no, earning doesn’t make you powerful over others. It just gives you a chance to make choices.
Money doesn’t just buy food or clothes. It gives you a choice of what to wear, what to buy, how much to spend, and whether to say yes or no. That’s freedom. That’s independence. And everyone regardless of gender deserves that.
My Journey With Money
When people say things like “financial independence is making women arrogant,” I want to say, no darling, your power complex is the real issue.
I’ve lived through the other side too. I remember growing up with barely any pocket money. I had to save from whatever little I had just to manage basic things for school and college. And maybe that’s what taught me how to manage finances early on.
I’ve worked for peanuts and then finally earned what I deserved. And at every stage whether I was broke or stable; people had opinions. Some wanted to exploit my qualifications, others wanted to undermine my voice. They want your skills, your qualifications, your time, but often not without trying to belittle you too.
It’s exhausting. Especially as a woman.
But here’s the one thing that stayed consistent:
Money may give you choices, but your values decide what you do with them. Money is powerful. But YOU are more powerful.
Your character, how you behave with someone less privileged or more privileged than you, that’s where real class lies. Not in your income, not in your job title.
So many people misuse money, not just men, not just women. It’s not about who holds the money. It’s about how they hold themselves when they have it.
Just because you earn doesn’t mean you control.
Just because you spend doesn’t mean you’re superior.
The real independence isn’t from someone else’s wallet; it’s from the need to seek validation through money.
The Real Takeaway
This isn’t just a rant. It’s a reminder.
A reminder that financial independence doesn’t mean control over someone. It means control over yourself. And we need to stop treating it like a threat especially when it comes from women.
Let’s stop glorifying one gender for earning and shaming the other for wanting the same freedom. Empowerment isn’t competition. It’s balance.
And to anyone reading this: your worth is never tied to how much you earn. But if you’re lucky enough to earn, earn with humility. Spend with awareness. And never forget: money flows, but your values stay.
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Final Thoughts
I hope this write-up speaks to you, whoever you are: man, woman, or beyond these labels. You are not powerful because of money. You are powerful because of what you choose to do with what you have.
Financial independence should liberate you, not trap others.
This post is a piece of my truth. Raw, real, and hopeful. If it made you think, reflect, or even smile a little, share it forward. Someone else may need to hear it too.
Let’s rise, reflect, and redefine what power means, together.
Until next time, Farha
